This week I\'d like to offer you a little insight as a girl who\'s trying to weave her way through the confusing world of relationships.



In the advent of modern-day communications efficiencies like e-mail, cell phones, text messaging and mySpace, it seems like so many people are holding out on further investing in or pursuing relationships, assuming that something better is going to come along sooner or later.



Dear boys, please allow me to be quite blunt: Carmen Electra will never be your girlfriend.



With that type of abundant attention-deficit commitment phobia, I\'ve spent my time creating what I call the Art of Unattachment.



Now, the psychologists of the world would probably say that my Art of Unattachment isn\'t the healthiest of approaches, but it\'s one that I\'ve found to be so very necessary in this day and age.



There have been all kinds of men in my life and when they\'ve expressed interest in me, and when you\'re good at the Art of Unattachment, you don\'t ever get excited about the potential with any of them. You keep them at a complete arm\'s length unless you\'ve scrutinized them well enough to determine it\'s safe to let them in just a smidgen closer.



You let the course of the relationship ebb and flow as it will, at whatever level, but with your guard up. If it doesn\'t work out, you can\'t take it personally if you\'ve never developed strong feelings in the first place.



In the last 31 years of my life, I\'ve continued to evolve with this comfort in my independence. Courtesy of the Art of Unattachment, I don\'t yearn for or brood over relationships or companionship, and as a matter of fact, I recognize that I\'m usually better off without.



A core component of the Art of Unattachment is two very meaningful words: SELF CONFIDENCE. When you really know who you are and what you have to offer, you\'re less affected by people who try to hurt you, and try, they will.



Let me give you an example of how this all plays out.



I recently met up with a certain dude I used to date and I offered the notion of us trying to patch things up and give dating another whirl.



He proceeded tell me that we, in fact, weren\'t ever dating in the first place; we were just having sex.



Lovely.



Other girls might let this get to them and bring them down, but when you\'ve culminated the Art of Unattachment, you could really care less, and you let s***heads like this dude make their stupid mistakes without having any impact on your psyche whatsoever. They\'re the losers in the transaction, you aren\'t.



With that, I woke up the following day, took a soothing shower and washed that s***head out of my hair, plucked my perfect eyebrows, threw on my favorite dress and knee-high boots, applied plum lipstick, the Citre Shine in my hair and my snobby French perfume, and went out to meet up with friends on the town.



A brand new day provides the opportunity to leave that dude in the dust, where he belongs.



Is the distancing that the Art of Unattachment creates a part of the overall problem since it\'s tough to win a spot in my heart? A little, I suppose, but to me it\'s all about self preservation.



I\'m an attractive, educated, talented and happy human being, and I\'ll never let anyone convince me otherwise or settle for anything but the best.



This is my kind of love

Last Wednesday was Love Tacoma\'s MLK Nosh. Boy, those Love Tacoma people know how to do it up right. Thirty-five people joined in on the good times for dinner at Le Le\'s and then more sipping at Monsoon Room and Tempest. Several had never hung out on MLK before, and that was a great intro. Love Tacoma makes it so very easy to meet new, neat people (Like Print Northwest Jeff and Adam!) which continues to make me happy that I\'ve attended.

Masa affection

On Thursday I finished a loooong day at work and much to my delight, K to the K decided she was going to steal me and bring me to Masa. Thank goodness she did. The deck on top of Masa was packed with all kinds of people — Xitco Xpress, Brother Luke, the Harley Dudes, and The Pusher even made a guest appearance. I had such a fantastic time with them all, watching the people and sneaking in giggles and secrets with the ever-fun K to the K. The Pusher and I adjourned to Asado for a few more cocktails and some really snobby tequila to close the evening.

Freedom Friday

Kewl Kyle was kind enough to invite me to his house party on Friday where I joined several Tacoma celebrities including Sweet Charlotte, Lisa Fruichantie, Daniel Blue, Hugable Holly and her Glen.

After that, First Lady Olivia picked me up and we ventured to Doyle\'s. Several discussions of relationships ensued, and I think sooner or later, she\'ll become a believer in the Art of Unattachment, too.