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QUESTION: Two years ago, "Beth," this attractive woman I see around, gave me her number and mentioned three times that she hadn't been asked out in a long time. I called to ask her out and ... silence. She then said, "I can't ... as I think I may have
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QUESTION: According to you, most women aren't interested in seeing pictures of naked men. To quote you, most would "run past a naked man to get to shoes." So, how do you explain all the women who go to clubs to see male strippers? Looks like somebody has to admit
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QUESTION: I have an online dating issue. When a man and I are going to have our first phone chat, I set up a specific day and time so we don't have to play phone tag. This allows me to schedule around it and be prepared and at my computer
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QUESTION: A recent column of yours really ticked me off. You stated, "While men can have sex without an emotional connection, women generally need to feel emotionally close to their partner first." You could not be more WRONG. I'm a very good-looking and fit man, and I would never have
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QUESTION: One year ago, I was engaged to a wonderful man I'd been with for four years. I loved him deeply, he was everything I thought I wanted, and his family was my family. Two months before our wedding, a dear male friend of mine confessed his love for me.
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QUESTION: I fear my husband has some disability in regard to apologizing. Monday was his birthday. I had a terrible cold, but put myself on enough meds to cook him a wonderful meal and dessert. I felt too sick for sex, so I offered up a, um, very personal massage,
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QUESTION: I'm a 56-year-old married woman, and as far as I can tell, I've been happily heterosexual all my life - until recently. For the past year, I've been thinking about a woman until I can no longer think about anything else. I have such powerful and authentic sexual feelings
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QUESTION: My girlfriend and I are planning to get married this year. Her finances are in perfect order (she's frugal, with no debts, while I owe $8K on credit cards), so we agreed that she'd manage our money after marriage. But recently, something happened that has me worried. I bought
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QUESTION: I met a guy online, and after two four-hour phone conversations, he declared he felt a "deep connection." We had a romantic date, during which he made repeated declarations of his feelings. The next morning, he sent a somewhat angry text, observing that I'd logged in again on the
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QUESTION: My wife and I have been married four months after dating a year. She's 40; I'm 34. Before we married, we agreed (because of our values) that the man pays the daily living expenses (rent/mortgage, bills, taxes, groceries). She said I should never rely on her for money, but
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QUESTION: When you gave advice to the woman complaining about her husband surfing the Internet for porn and swimsuit photos of Serena Williams, you seemed to have missed a word in her question. That word is "husband." I doubt people get married with it being OK for another man or woman
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QUESTION: I'm a 40-something married woman with an unwanted admirer. Last year, an 80ish married man, a member of my literary club, called me, confessed his passion for me, and begged me to have a romantic dinner with him. I reluctantly made plans to meet "Romeold" for coffee, intending to
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QUESTION: My wife of eight years is a really good person but always needs reassurance that she's attractive. I'm finding that difficult because, on a typical night, she takes a dump in our master bathroom with the door open, saunters over to our bed with a few open sores on
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QUESTION: I'd love your take on a bizarre first date. I suggested happy hour drinks, but he wanted to take me to dinner, and picked a really nice restaurant. When we were ordering, he suggested we play "a fun game," which entailed closing our eyes and picking a number (the
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QUESTION: In middle school, I got a crush on "Sam," but he wasn't interested. In high school, he took me to prom, but only as friends when none of the other girls he asked said yes. I was jealous upon hearing he'd gotten married, but several years later, he called,
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QUESTION: My husband surfs the Internet for porn and pictures of women when he's bored. I want to accept this, but I can't help but feel insecure and betrayed. He doesn't watch porn when I'm home, but if I were gone more often, I think he'd be hopping online. I
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You tech my breath away QUESTION: I've had some good experiences with online dating, but I just can't get over this feeling that it just isn't natural or sexy. - Clicking For Love ANSWER: People romanticize chance meetings over highly calculated search algorithms. They swoon telling the story, "If I hadn't filled in
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QUESTION: In your response to the woman with the publicly gropey boyfriend, you deemed French kissing at a workplace event inappropriate PDA. How about French kissing one's girlfriend during a performance of "Stomp" (musical theater)? The woman behind me that evening gave me negative feedback ... which was of no
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QUESTION: I'm 28 and my boyfriend of five years is 29. I'm ready to get married, and he's flat-out not, but wants us to stay together. Our maturity levels vary greatly. I'm getting my Ph.D. while working full time. He has a job, but can't save or manage money and
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QUESTION: I'm 23, and my girlfriend of a couple months is 20. I'm taller than her, although I'm only 5-foot-7, and very thin (I weigh less than she does). She's mentioned several times that she's never been with somebody so thin, making me think it's a problem for her. I
