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QUESTION: Recently, you published a letter from a married man complaining about his wife's letting their two young children sleep in their marital bed with them. They'd gone from being a couple who didn't have much sex to a nearly sexless one. You seemed to suggest that the guy bargain
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QUESTION: My boyfriend moved in with me after his landlord raised his rent. He announced that he'd give me $400 a month (half of what he was paying at his place), then cut that to $350. I pay $1,250 a month for my home loan and utilities, and more for
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QUESTION: Men's magazines and blogs always have some article telling guys to pick up women at grocery stores. Really? I've actually never heard of a guy successfully asking a girl out in the vegetable section. The meat counter doesn't seem all that conducive to romance, either. What's the real deal
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QUESTION: My wife is co-sleeping - sharing our bed - with our two children. I understand why she sleeps with our baby, who's breast-feeding, but not why my 6-year-old daughter must sleep in our bed. I've quit sharing the "family bed," as I need my rest. I fully believe that my daughter
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QUESTION: My boyfriend of two years isn't overtly weird; he's actually a really nice, normal guy, but he has this "hobby" of going for walks totally naked. We live in Vermont, where this is actually legal. I tell him that women find this upsetting, but he is really turned on
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QUESTION: I've been married for over 20 years, and though my wife and I have a very good relationship, she has a low sex drive and never initiates sex. She used to make snide remarks about my sex drive, but I pointed out my options (no sex, self-service, her or
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QUESTION: I've been engaged to a man for seven years, but we haven't been able to afford to get married. I attend college part time while raising my daughter and working. He treats me well and works hard, but he's unmotivated and undereducated. He doesn't even have a high school
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QUESTION: I had to talk a guy friend out of showing up on a first date with a rose and a book the woman had casually mentioned she liked. He's a genuinely nice guy and professionally quite successful, but he repeatedly turns women off by coming on too strong too soon with
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QUESTION: My fiance's been treating me badly for a while. When I'm at his place, I spend most of my time watching him play video games and drink beer until he's ready for sex or he passes out. He calls me "insecure" and says "get over it" if I bring
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QUESTION: My co-worker was really hung up on a guy. She was convinced he liked her, and she did all the flirty things you advise, but he never made a move. This went on for months since she, like you, thought women should never, ever ask a man on a
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QUESTION: I'm an African-American gay woman in my mid-20s. I initially had relationships with men, but I'm just not attracted to or compelled by them. Women make me feel alive, exhilarated, connected, and challenged, and sex is the bomb. So, I know I truly love women ... but most lesbians,
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QUESTION: I'm 25, a singer in a band, and extremely motivated to make a career out of my music. In fact, I'm moving to LA this week for that purpose. I've been casually dating - speedily dumping men who've gotten attached (not my fault, I make my intentions super-clear). I
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QUESTION: I met an amazing guy - the kind I swore didn't exist: thoughtful, caring, and incredibly secure. He seemed to love me. We were together exactly nine months when he called and suggested we go dancing. Ten minutes after I arrived at the club, he broke up with me.
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QUESTION: Women always insist they're looking for a "nice guy," but they waste no time running past one to get to a jerk/bad boy. It really seems they're drawn to guys who treat them badly. My most egotistical friends score with women like crazy, and I'm a nice guy who's
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QUESTION: I offhandedly mentioned to a friend that I thought her married brother was really cute. She revealed that his divorce (from a 10-year marriage) would soon be final. (It will be at the end of this month.) She then played matchmaker. He and I have been dating for three
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QUESTION: My 27-year-old girlfriend has two kids (ages 10 and 5). She is financially stable and owns her own house. We began planning to get married, but then she said she didn't want any more children. She cites the financial burden, the time a baby would take from "us," how
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QUESTION: I'm in a relationship that feels like it could last, but I'm afraid of ending up like my parents: constantly bickering over minutiae, snarling at each other from other rooms, and slamming doors. The thing is, my boyfriend and I are already starting to fight over the stupidest stuff!
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QUESTION: I've been married for 10 years. I'm 43, well-educated, financially well-off, and fit. My husband and I are wonderful friends, and I love him dearly. However, for reasons he won't tell me, he decided eight years ago that he was no longer interested in sex. He says it's "too
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QUESTION: My boyfriend of 10 months asked me for my idea of a romantic evening, and I said I think it's really romantic to make dinner together. He asked for specifics, and I ended up pretty much describing what my last boyfriend and I used to do: have wine and
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QUESTION: I'm an older woman (almost 50) in a six-year live-in relationship with a 25-year-old guy. The problem is he wants to sleep with other girls. I understand his need to be with other girls, especially at his age. Although I consented, I love him and cannot bear the thought
