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QUESTION: I'm a retired pastor in my 50s. A nearby church wanted my help with their Christmas musical, and I asked my wife of five years, who played bass at my church, to join me. She became angry at this suggestion and said I should do my own thing on
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QUESTION: I just got dumped by a guy who swore he was ready to settle down (after years of serial monogamy). His relationship history reminded me of the man you wrote about recently who had been married and divorced five times and was on relationship number six. Woman number six
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QUESTION: A divorced male friend and I recently became "friends with benefits." However, I'm not receiving the same, uh, level of benefits as he is. He isn't giving me orgasms from intercourse, and his pleasuring of me is measured in seconds rather than minutes, despite my telling him that this
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QUESTION: Three years ago, I was divorced six weeks from a 22-year marriage when I got involved with a married co-worker and persuaded him to divorce his wife for me. He has been married five times and cheated on all of his wives. I have reason to believe he's still
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QUESTION: I'm starting to have feelings for this guy friend I've been fooling around with, but I'm worried he isn't feeling the same way. He's stopped short of having full-blown intercourse with me, which I find odd, although I don't want to have sex yet because I have genital herpes
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QUESTION: My girlfriend's best friend is her ex. They broke up six years ago (upon mutual agreement). She swears she's much happier being his friend and says they both feel they weren't meant to be romantic partners. Well, she clearly adores the hell out of him, and he's her go-to
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QUESTION: Two years ago, my man left his 22-year marriage to be with me, but he told me he loved his former wife and would always want a friendship with her. I accepted that (I'm friends with my ex), but I'm bothered by the amount of contact they have. They
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QUESTION: For 10 years, this woman and I have had a hot-and-cold long-distance relationship, the temperature of which she's always controlled. She's 56; I'm 46. Last year, she felt ready to try for something lasting. She couldn't afford to travel, so I paid for her flight. She stayed with me
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QUESTION: I've been with my boyfriend for three years. The first year was rocky. He was selling drugs, got addicted, and went to prison. Three months after getting out, he relapsed. I persuaded his mother to send him to rehab, and afterward I found us an apartment, where we've been
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QUESTION: I'm in a great relationship of seven months. My boyfriend and I never get sick of each other. We respect each other and are there for each other, and we talk very openly, even when we're upset. His ex-girlfriend is part of our group of friends. She is thin
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QUESTION: I have a good relationship with my boyfriend of a year except for how he ignores me when he's stressed. The first time this happened, he disappeared for a week and didn't respond to texts or voicemails. He later explained he'd been swamped with work and apologized repeatedly. Last
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QUESTION: My husband and I are entrepreneurs, developing a new product. We're both working long hours. He's miserable because he has no time for his art (painting), and our sex life is in shambles. There isn't a lot of blame or anger. We simply go about our entire days with
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QUESTION: I feel like a disappointment to my boyfriend of seven months. I'm 28; he's 35 and Mr. Smart. He is a Brit and was a top student at Cambridge. He says everyone expected him to become Prime Minister, but he decided to buck their expectations and become a portrait
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QUESTION: My wife of three years complains that I'm not romantic anymore. In the beginning, I did romantic stuff all the time. I still love her very much, but I guess I'm subconsciously reacting to the fact that I've nabbed her forever. (There's definitely something to be said about "the
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QUESTION: I met a really great girl before deploying to Iraq. We've gotten as close as two people can while physically separate, but she is sexually frustrated to the max and wants to have an unemotional hookup. She suggests we each have a "last fling" before we start our relationship
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QUESTION: I am 19 and have been dating a wonderful 24-year-old guy for about a month. Some of his family members wish he were still with the fiancee he broke up with six months ago and aren't too happy about him seeing me. His 19-year-old half sister actually contacted me
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QUESTION: When my boyfriend moved across the country to Manhattan for two years, we pledged we'd be faithful. We talk and text daily, and he tells me he loves me and that I'm the only person for him. Well, my best girlfriend visited her brother, my boyfriend's roommate, and returned
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QUESTION: My boyfriend lives in Germany, and I'm in Switzerland (a one-hour plane ride away). His close female friend is getting married, and I'm not invited to the wedding. Last spring, when we were broken up for three months, he had a fling with the bride's friend. As a courtesy
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QUESTION: My husband is extremely analytical, to the point where he has a negative or argumentative response to almost anything I say - including positive or even insignificant things. Then, when he makes some remark, unless I respond with "I agree" or "uh-huh," he debates me. I've repeatedly asked him
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QUESTION: A co-worker seems interested in me. This is flattering since he's 48 and I'm 57. He's asked me out on dates a few times -- rather last minute, unfortunately, and I had conflicting plans. He also invited me to join his volleyball club that plays in the park during
