Most men find it difficult to shop for the important women in their lives; women can be picky and fickle. So why not get her something that both of you will really, really enjoy? No, silly, not a widescreen TV - lingerie. She's almost guaranteed to love something she's going to look absolutely smokin' hot in ... and so are you. Of course, this opens up a whole new can of worms: Where can you find this lingerie? Friday's Purple Passion For Lingerie is a benefit for the non-profit group Beauty Empower, which supports women who have been victimized by empowering them from the inside out. Women will don lingerie from Vixens House of Shoes and Apparel in what is being called a mixer/fashion show. Don't be scared: There will be other dudes, raffle prizes, drinks flowing and DJ J Quest behind the decks. At 10 p.m. the show morphs into a pajama afterparty where guests in sexy corsets and smoking jackets receive a $5 drink ticket.

[Surreal Ultra Lounge, 8 p.m., $20, $25 after 10 p.m., 728 Pacific Ave., Tacoma, 253.722.5489]