The main reason is if a married female soldier gets raped or harassed, she is committing adultery and her husband can sense that and divorce her. In other words, married female soldiers who get sexually assaulted considered to be adulterous. And married female soldiers are more prone to committing marital infidelity than married male soldiers. In other words, the main reason for a married female soldier getting divorced is her infidelity to her husband, even when she gets raped. It's hard for a married female soldier to be faithful to her husband when she's working with a lot of men. In other words, female soldiers are very unfaithful to their husbands.

LR...please come and tell me that to my face. I, too, am getting divorced because my husband couldn't handle being a military spouse. I NEVER cheated on my husband. Not even when he stepped out on me. I was also assaulted while married. If that is adultery on my part, that is between me and God. FU for saying that being raped makes a woman unfaithful...an adulterous. BS. Ignorant male. Woman are not more likely to cheat because we are around guys all day. In fact, I was sick of hearing about sex while at work. How they cheated on their wives...boobs this and a** that. I know I can't say ignorant male enough but that is what you and Guest are. @soldier...I know the feeling. It is frustrating that 2 people love each other but the military life does interfere with it. Some deal, so divorce. Some do get jealous but what if a girl worked at Taco Bell. Same rule apply? Basically, this a**hole thinks women just spread it whenever because she works outside the home (not just b/c she is a soldier) and rape makes her a slut, too. Why? Who hurt you? Seek counseling to get over your hatred of women. My husband never judged me b/c of the assault. He loved that I didn't let it ruin my life. He wanted to kill the guy so I did a restricted report so my man would never know his name but I could get help. It happened at a unit activity. My husband and I were already talking divorce. I get so fired up with men and some females that are so ignorant to sexual trauma. I don't give a good freaking toot about religious teachings on assault...brings about ignorance and intolerance. Gives sympathy to the wrong people. "Oh that poor man, his wife was raped...let's kill that adulterous slut." Wow, great religion/culture...sign me up!

I am literally horrified by the assertion that a woman who is raped "ruins her husband and family." Rape is NOT committing adultery, but why don't we just ignore that and blame the women for being victimized!

I am a female soldier. My husband is divorcing me I came home one day and he moved out all of his stuff. I have never been unfaithful to my husband. I have been sexually harrassed at work probably 3 times. I have not been raped at work. When you work a high stress job the people in your life have to be able to take care of them selves. My husband and I struggled with traditional marital roles. I wanted to be a wife who cooked and cleaned, he wanted a wife who didnt' worry about those things and gave constant time and attention. He did not like me having a job where i could be called back in on a moments notice, and constantly had males making me miserable at work.. I realistically put in 10-14 hour days. It was emotionally and physically exhausting. I loved my job. I love being a soldier but somehow my marriage could not withstand the move, the trouble of him finding a job, the seperation from our families, the limited social interaction you have when you can't stay up late or make lots of friends. Our love for eachother was not a nightmare, but our circumstances were.. so he left. It had nothing to do with who I was as a person or who he was. we are both good people. The Military is a difficult life and not everyone can do it.

To LR:

Your previous statements that lead into your concluding sentence, "...female soldiers are very unfaithful to their husbands", seems to suggest that a female soldier being subjected to sexual harassment and rape makes her unfaithful. I don't know of your cultural background or how you were raised, but saying that a woman who is forced to engage in sexual acts with a man who is not her husband is, as a result, an adulteress is a very ignorant and offensive idea. A woman becomes unfaithful when she makes the choice to be unfaithful, not when that decision if forced upon her. I can tell you with absolute positivity that I would never be unfaithful to my husband and the only way that I would be sexually involved with another individual is if I found myself in a situation where I had no choice. Furthermore, if such a thing ever happened, my husband would never consider it as an act of cheating on my part, but treat it as the horrifying ideal that it really is. The situation is not that of a man being victimized by a cheating wife, but of a woman being victimized by an individual who felt he had a right to take from her what was only hers to give to her partner. In conclusion, I really hope that I misunderstood your comment.

But raping a married woman can cause her to ruin her husband and family and to commit adultery as well, according to some religious teachings.