Go the distance and then the army will recognize you.

Well said. These girlfriends and even many fiancess think they are on par with the spouses who have given so much sacrifice. When you have stood by your man and your country for 15 years + then you deserve more respect from the military.

While I commend you for the dedication you've shown your husband and your country I will have to disagree with your lack of concern for the simply significant other. Divorce rates in the military are higher than in the civilian world, not just because its tough being an Army wife, but also because these Soldiers get married too young and too quickly just so that their loved ones can be supported. I've had a few friends that have pleaded for advice and support and have been rudely denied because they weren't married. It's not the 15+ years that is earning the respect of the military (and that does deserve respect), it's the piece of paper that says you're legal.

I believe that the soldier should have the right to put anyone they want as the recipient of death benefits. Whether it be a best friend, parents, spouse, girlfriend... it should be the soldiers choice. But, when it comes to health benefits, housing, post privileges,etc... I believe it's important to have the legality of being married to have these privileges. And that's just what they are.... a privilege. Yes, girlfriends, best friends, domestic partners all put in long skype chats, hours waiting... but they have not made that ultimate decision to stand by their soldier for the long hall, made the commitment for life. They still have the option to walk away. I cherish my privileges as an Army Wife... and I could not image having to live in the civilian world during this deployment without the support the Army offers behind me. If you want those privileges, make the choice to legally become a part of your soldiers life and a part of the Army family.

Well said Betsy!